What Is LOVE?
Love… what do we know about love.
Love needs two people to work it out,
To adjust to one another…
To give tolerance…
For a man to love a woman…
Is to accept each other weaknesses…
Not to see her weakness as a flaw
But to love her and give direction when she lost hers
To be there when she needs
To held her hands and let her know that you’ll be there
To carry her when she fell
To accept each other strength…
Not to see her strength as a threat
But let her free as a bird
To achieve what she wants
To love is not to change your love ones…
To love is to accept her for who she really is..
But in the name of love… people can also change willingly
To love is to just loving…
Caring..
Understanding…
There is no reason why we love someone…
Love is not a trade..
Love is not meeting a standard criteria…
Love is simple… the unity of two souls …
If you love someone for a reason then it’s not love…
Loving someone is not because you afraid of being alone
Not because of loneliness
Or because you afraid can’t get a better one….
But because you finally have found your better half….
And it makes you feel complete…
Rusmi, Dec 26, 2004
June 25th, 2006 at 5:43 pm
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.
Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
June 25th, 2006 at 5:43 pm
Hey Mai!
Got this forwarded message and thought that you might find it as inspiring as I did
Love Sun
June 27th, 2006 at 8:35 am
hehe… quite inspiring Sun. Especially the last 2 sentences. Wakaka.
August 8th, 2006 at 5:09 am
More or less I agreed with Sunny’s message. It’s quite inspiring for me too, given my circumstances right now…
Yeah… You cannot change a person’s behaviour. Don’t ever expect them to change for you. They will never change no matter how long you wait. The more you wait… the more you become dissapointed. Since, yes, change comes from inside.
However, we must admit that accepting a man as “who he really is” is very difficult. For me, it took ages to learn, but then i realize, i wasn’t accepting. I only lied to myself.
Loh kok jadi curhat??!! hehe..